Genuine friendship

How can I tell who my real friends are?



First, it is a good idea to consider what friendship is. True friendship is a relationship where you empathize with your friends when they are suffering and encourage them not to lose heart. And they, in turn, do the same for you.

Friendship often begins simply by liking someone because he or she spends a lot of time with you, or perhaps, helps u with your homework. You may start by looking someone who is nice to you and with whom you get along well and have a lot of common. While friendship may begin spontaneously and develop by them, deep friendships are supported by a spirit to grow and advance. Between you and your friends there must be a commitment to always there to encourage and help one another as you work toward your respective goals in life.

To have some ambition, such as graduating from a university or making a meaningful contribution to society, is important. Those who lack a clear, positive purpose or direction in life tend to have friendships that lead nowhere or based on dependency. In some cases, these types of friendships actually encourage destructive behavior. But friendships among people who cheerfully encourage one an other while striving to realize their dreams are the kind that deepen and endure.

Character and integrity are indispensable for making friends. True friendship is concerned with social status or rank. You can make real friends only when you open up, when you share with others what’s in your heart. A selfish, egotistical person cannot make true friends.

The tie that links one person’s heart to another is sincerity. For adults, self interest or personal gain often comes into play, and fleeting friendships are formed as the result of temporary circumstance. But friendships made in one’s youth are generally free of artificially. Nothing is more wonderful pr precious than the true friendships formed when you are young.

Your friends from junior high and high school, even elementary school are like your fellow actors, appearing in the same play with you on the stage of life. Some you may forget for the rest of your life.

Such friendships flow as beautifully as a pure, fresh stream. The clear and unspoiled currents of two people converge in sincerity, moving positively toward their respective dreams. Struggling and growing together, they share each others’ hardship, always encouraging and supporting each other, creating an even broader, deeper and purer river of friendship. The beauty and clarity of this river will inspire all who see it to want to drink from its waters, too.

Friendship is true wealth. There have been many famous sayings about it throughout the ages, such as Cicero’s “friendship is closer than kinship” and “a life without friendship is like a world without sunshine” and Aristotle’s “a friend is like another self”. No matter how much status or wealth people may gain those without friends are indeed sad and lonely. A life without friendship leads to an unbalanced, self centered existence.